What is a good memorial?

I attended a funeral on Friday. I long to say at funerals that the best way to honour some one dear who has left us is for each of us to take personally on board even but one quality of that person, so that when our turn comes, some one else will take some quality of ours as their own. In this way, the qualities we need for the survival of good character on the face of this God's earth will flourish in the face of everything ranged against it.